Labels such as 'good' and 'bad', 'right' and 'wrong' tend to distract from reality. Judgment tends to take focus towards a world as we would like it to be.
Compare reality to 'targets' or 'goals', objectively, without judgment or emotion. Discover and face the reality of root causes. Take action to either adjust the target or goal or the means being used to achieve them. Rinse and repeat till done (Warning: this may take a while, but what's the hurry?).
Being human, feelings of joy, sadness, exhilaration, despair will arise in moving towards a target or goal. Observe these feelings with equanimity in working to suspend judgment.
Will this turn us into emotionless robots? No. It will moderate unproductive emotions and generate an 'energy' that relaxes self and other, resulting in a state of 'being' (I'll find a better way to describe this some day!).
Working to overcome deep rooted tendencies to be critical can be an agonizing experience. Overcoming guilt and despair generated by the effort to overcome a personal weakness are just some of the challenges.
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