Recently I had to face a very angry person. He raved and ranted at the situation, then at someone else and shortly thereafter turned his anger towards me. By practicing equanimity, I was able to observe his behavior without losing equilibrium. I felt a deep sense of compassion as I understood the pain he must be going thru and his utter loss of self-control when faced by that pain. He had no idea about all this of course and providing feedback/analysis/diagnosis/solutions to him would be committing suicide (actually it would be murder, for he might have killed me!).
However, I still need to hold him accountable for his actions and coach him towards a more positive and healthy interactions. This is still work-in-progress. At least I have stopped adding to the problem. That for me is progress.
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